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Is my husband getting "hit on" by his married male boss?

My husband is from Columbia (so there are a few cultural differences that he doesn't understand)....He just started a new job. Within 2 weeks of him being there, his boss gave him a $200 cash bonus for doing good work. I thought this was a little strange, but didn't think much of it at first. About a week later, (we're now only 3 weeks into his new employment), his boss found him in the breakroom (alone) and made a comment that he looked better when he let his bangs fall on his forehead rather than slicking his hair back and then proceeded to "fix" his hair. After he finished playing with my husband's hair, he then gave him an Armani watch. Again, supposedly for doing well at his job. However, he told him to not tell anyone that his boss gave it to him. At this point, I started to raise my eyebrow wondering what this was all about. Less than a week later, my husband was on his way home from work when he got a call from his boss telling him to meet him at a restaurant, claiming that he was required to be at an upper level management meeting. (My husband is a lower level employee and not part of upper level management). When he stated to his boss he needed to go home and change out of his scrubs first, his boss instructed him to meet him at a nearby mall and he would take care of getting him some appropriate clothes. When my husband arrived at the mall, his boss bought him over $400 worth of clothes (1 complete outfit...shoes, socks, pants, $170 shirt). When he arrived at the dinner function, all the executive/upper level management people were staring at him in disbelief wondering why this hourly employee was there. Last week, his boss took him to lunch at a very nice, expensive restaurant and proceeded to tell him how unhappy he was with his wife and his marriage. My husband didn't know what to say and just politely nodded and tried to be a sympathetic listener. This week, the boss has now indicated that he would like my husband to be his personal assistant and to travel with him when necessary. My husband's birthday is this Thursday and the boss just offered to take him to the Bahamas for the weekend...just the two of them. Now, I'm more than a little concerned. What can we do to stop this? My husband doesn't want to lose his job and is afraid to say anything. This is putting a huge strain on our relationship. My husband is not in the least interested in his boss "in that way"...but he's terrified of losing his job if he says "stop" to this guy. I can't convince my husband that his boss is probably a closeted married gay man. What can I do????

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"that his boss is probably a closeted married gay man" Probably!?....did you say 'Probably"? Lady....no matter what country you come from, a man should know when a homosexual male is putting the moves on him. Coming from Columbia I would have thought the old 'machismo' most Latin males are infamous for would have kicked in and opened his eyes by now.
First he should not have accepted ALL the gifts. do you think they came without strings attached?? He should not be associating after works hours. Sounds like you hubby is also sending mixed signals by participating and keeping the clothes. He needs to be totally honest.
i dont know it sounds pretty suspect, but what if you are reading too much into it. what if for some reason his boss has just taken a liking to him and is trying to lift him up for some reason? you know, maybe he sees something in your husband that reminds him of himself when he was young or something? sooner or later this man will spell out his intentions and you will know for sure. if he indeed is gay, i dont see this ending well no matter what your husband does. time to look for a new job.
HUbby needs to get a new job A S A P
Your husband should be saying no to all these things but he also needs to write everything down and put the date on it. If he is fired he can use that to pursue a sexual harrassment lawsuit. You might want to ask this in the law and ethics section too.
Are you Absolutely sure your husband is not lying to you? How do you know for sure its his male boss and not a female boss or female co worker. For 2 if it is his male boss then you have a huge black mail chance here. For one you should ask your husband to bring in a voice activated spy device and record him saying stuff that way you have proof. I would not say anything to anyone until you have proof that way you cant get fired. Another thing why give up a good thing extra money and nice gifts its not as if your husband was asked to do anything extra for it. But must get a spy device te record. Just google voice activated spy pen. There like $150 but worth it. Looks just like a pen and no one will notice.
Contact Cheaters (the TV program) and have them follow your husband so that you can get the full story. I think you are going to be very angry when you learn that you husband is accepting those advances for more than just a job.
My guess is that your husband in trying to "do good" in the company and "advance", will be having sex with his boss soon enough. Pay close attention to him and if starts to get cold toward you, this means his beginning to like D 1ck. Now if does not have a conscience, then you will not know if he is giving his boss b1 0wjobz or not.
he needs to put a stop to it unless well he wants all of this...some men are secretly into men well the butt thing... but not saying ur husband is... just saying . well he needs to put a stop with it what is more important is wife or his job!!i know we need a job but not something like this kind of job is not right he can report him which i would do, but then agian not sure if this high boss man would get away with it and ur husband would be on the out!!! crazy sick to me
Your profile says you are also male. Presumably your "husband's" boss knows you are a same sex couple and, indeed, is hitting on your partner. You need to be talking to your husband about why he accepted all the expensive gifts in the first place (restaurant dinners are one thing, an Armani watch and a pricey set of clothes are a whole other, and totally inappropriate -- as is his boss rearranging hubby's hair!). I am a bit surprised at your husband's naivete concerning his boss' actions. He can still draw the line and do what he should have done in the first place: say "no". He could also be building a case for sexual harassment, if he can document all the gifts and overtures. In any case, he should start looking for another job. If he stays where he is now, someone is going to get hurt -- and, chances are, it won't be the boss!
Ok, if this guy was giving YOU all this stuff would YOU think there was something behind it? Would your husband be jealous and/or concerned? would your husband put up with all thIs if YOU were the victim? Uh---no. Your "husband" needs to document every encounter and gifts and RETURN the gifts---today. He can tell his boss that his "wife" is upset. He needs to go to the HR department and file a sexual harassment claim. He won't be the first, I bet. If he gets fired, your husband will be in fine shape to sue his Bf's COMPANY'S ears off. If he keeps the gifts, he will look like a gold-digger--which is what he is right now. If your husband refuses to document this, and go to HIS HR department and file a complaint, then he is teasing this man and lying ot you. You think your husband is this guy's first DATE? I don't. I bet he is in a long line of former boyfriends and the whole company knows it. Also, Columbian or not, I would be wondering if my husband was cheating, too, since he doesn't notice the fireworks, and seems to think accepting very expensive gifts from strangers is normal.