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Do you find this disrespectful towards woman and their children?

One of my guy friends whom I grew up with since grade-school is currently 22 has 4 children, 6yrs,4yrs,14month and a newborn (2days old) from 3 different woman the 4 year old and newborn belong to the same woman and the other to other woman. HE IS STILL LIVING HIS SINGLE LIFE DATING OTHER GIRLS My question is I find it disrespectful on his part that he has basically "burden" these woman's lives by making them single mothers, when he is well aware that he is not going to settle down and be a full-time dad, He even said it "i want kids but I don't want to take care of a woman" now I know it takes to 2 tango and these woman who know the type of guy he is should know better than allowing themselves to become pregnant with a child by him when he is not "good guy material" however my question is what do you think of this, I know many other guys who just use woman to have children but they never settle down with the woman they basically use the woman to "make" the baby and the men come and go as they wish, they play dad when they want and when they make time. i find it disgusting that these men have children all over the place and while they might be a "good" dad when they "have time" I think it does a great disservice to the children, How can a man be a "GOOD" father to 4 children in 3 different households, One child requires plenty of time (not just basic needs being meet but the love and affection is a 24/7 job) how is there even time for him to raise kids all over the place. my other question is if you have a child With a man and he proves to be basically "worthless" why would you have another child by him if he failed to be a good dad to the first child? What goes through these girls head when they make this decision? one thing is to fall into single motherhood by 'misfortune" but when you know the "type" of man he is and know that this guy already has multiple "baby mommas" why would a woman ALLOW herself to become pregnant again? the LEAST i can do for my child is PICK a good man to be the father why pick such a loser? why that does such a disservice to the child!

Public Comments

1. THIS is exactly what I was talking about when I said women need to make better choices. If your boyfriend has other kids that he is not taking care of (really? Four children, I think we know he couldn't possibly pay any sort of decent child support), why would you have a child with him. And for the girl who has his oldest, and his youngest, well that's just stupid. He didn't do it on his own. These women made bad choices. And will probably make a lot more out of desperation.
2. thats what i always say to my on moms, y did u get with my dad if he was so bad? she usually slaps me.. I don't think thats direspectful to women but that is the epitome of child neglect and the respect the kids don't get is what boils my blood. Girls are soo/too naive and i don't think we should give them a pass because they think differently and with their hearts. Women have to think about their kids, most women can go out and have any man they want yet they play it old school and let the guys chase them. but girls have all the power, they choose the low lifes and they are at fault. and it seems life everybody and their grandpa knows it was all about the sex and nothing else before the girl figures it out. its so annoying and pathetic.
3. How about this..you just make sure you find the right guy to make with, and stay out of other peoples lives? You can't change how they live, so make a differnce by living your life right...