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I am an eighteen year old male who is still attending high school to get his education in the state of Virginia. I have a choice to graduate on either Jan. 28 or June 10th. I need to get that diploma so I can maintain a job after high school. My mother's fiance left about two and a half weeks ago with no notice to live with his parents in Illinois. With that being said, there has been a lot of fighting in the house hold for quite some time now and he refuses to come back home due to it. He would much rather leave his problems at rest and avoid them while he's out getting most-likely laid in another state. Before he left to make the trip out to Illinois, he had his son take most of his possessions (matchbox/hot-wheel cars, antique furniture, and autographed cards) to his son's house to keep or sell on eBay thus profiting half of it. My mother is completely devastated right now as we speak. She's blaming me for the cause of the relationship ending despite they had a ton of problems. I know that I haven't been helping it nonetheless but I do know that I don't think that I had that much of an impact. I love my mother very much and I am extremely hurt by her actions. Her fiance and I have never gotten along and probably never will regardless of what the outcome of this will be. I honestly think that he is trash and that my mother deserves a lot better. That's my view on the relationship but I honestly have no say in it because I am not her. She has been taking care of him (paying the mortgage, other various bills, and food) for close to six months now while he's been sitting on his butt at home on the couch watching the news and recordings on our DVR box, acting as though he has retired with nothing to live off of. He won't get up and find a job and when she confronts him on it, he puts it off and makes up excuses while mental abusing her all at once. Our family told my mother that she should make a list of things to do for him to help his mind mentally. He said he was a grown man and refused to follow any rules or guidelines. He will look for a job but his job searching is quite slow. He will go to the library and put out his resume on career builder and other sites like Monster; however, when he gets offered a 50k salary job for management, he winds up turning it down! He says he can't do it and then goes back on his word saying that he didn't take it because he doesn't know if there is any stability in the relationship. He did file for unemployment; however, he refuses to help with the bills. It's on and off when he wants to help and what not. The mortgage as well as other various bills are still in his name. He plans on filing for bankruptcy with a lawyer in Illinois; therefore, he could care less if the house gets an eviction notice or if the electricity gets turned off. My mother has been telling him to come back home and get his things before the house gets foreclosed. He tells her that he'll get his things whenever he wants and that he isn't coming home stubbornly. My mother has poor credit and will never ever be able to qualify for the house's mortgage if we were to put it in her name. Her fiance has offered it several of times; however, he knows that she can't do it. Her fiance is two faced. He'll want to pay off the ring while he down in Illinois then he'll want to file for bankruptcy the next second. I forgot to mention that he suffers from depression and probably has multiple personalities disorder despite that he hasn't been diagnosed with it yet. I coach my mother and tell her that she should move on and start dating but she's just as stubborn as I am. Ultimately it comes down to her decision and I am happy for her what ever she decides to choose. I will inform you that there has been no Internet in the house and that her fiance had a computer that he brought with him. He also brought his cat as well as a ton of clothes. There is a lot of junk in the house but not nearly as valuable as the stuff he took with him or the things he gave to his son. Do you think that he is going to come back and that it's completely over with? The reason that she decided to get the Net out of their lives was because her fiance had a bad reputation in the past by cheating on his ex wife who he was with for twenty-seven years. She felt as though he would get back to his old habits and do it all over again because that's what he is used to. Now that he is Illinois, my mother has no way of knowing if he is cheating on her or not. And out of the blue, she found out yesterday that he prescribed another prescription of Viagra. She asked him about it and said that he wasn't cheating on her. Please keep in mind that he has a bad reputation for lying. She is quite controlling if you ask me. She won't even let him have a cell phone because his past was that bad; however, I do not blame her one bit. She's been lied to and played on so many times. Do you think that she is being played on right now? Do

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1. wait, first who's being kicked out, you, or both u and ur mom? 1. If it's just u look online 4 runaway hotlines 2. If it's the both of u, tell ur mom not 2 waste her time on a guy like that, he's a useless dead wieght and will hold her down l8r in life, tell her 2 get over it, and make him com over 2 the house and either pay the bill and leave, or threaten 2 get lawsuits and go 2 court, considering what u've told me, he probably has other people like ur mom he's done the same thing 2, so u'll win, bye, hope this helps, email me 4 more answers 2 ur questions : )
2. First of all Im so sorry for what you are having to go through, especially as you are probably already stressed out preparing for college or the next phase of your life. I suggest your mother needs to cut this guy off completely, he does not seem dependable and has done nothing to add to your mother's happiness. If anything it seems like all he's been doing is taking from your mother i.e monetary support and emotional support. Sounds like she needs to focus on herself for now and ask herself if the relationship is truly worth all the hassle. She probably blamed you because she is hurting over this, i would just ignore her and try to make her life as easy as possible. She is still a woman and a broken heart is a broken heart. She should give the guy a time or date in which he needs to get this things by or else you'll put the lot on ebay. If he cares he will come down asap Hope this helps you and that everything works out.