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My parents are being difficult, how can I deal with them?

First of all, I cut a deal with my parents when I graduated high school, I go to a community college for 2 years and then transfer to a university for free after that if I keep my grades up (it was a scholarship). I asked them if they would promise to let me go away to college and live on campus when I transfer, they said yes, considering my entire college education was free. Well, I graduated, kept my scholarship, haven't had to pay a dime so far. Problem is, the state changed the rules to the scholarship now saying it doesn't cover the entire tuition, since the school I'm transferring to is very cheap, it's only going to cost me about $1,000. Anyway, my parents are being extremely difficult about looking for housing. The school does not provide housing for a lot of upperclassmen and transfers, but the area around the school has tons of apartments, condos, and rooms available. I've been looking at places for a couple of months now, and everytime I bring it up with my parents, they tell me all the bad things about living off campus, you can't trust anyone, blah blah blah, and they put it off. Today, I gave my parents a bunch of listings and they just went through them and said no to each one. They won't let me live by myself (I'm 21 O______O), I can't live with anyone who is not a college student, I can't live with a male, this place is too far, this place is too expensive, you won't be able to live here, the list goes on and on. They shoot down everything I try to give them. I just went up to my mom and said, "you know what, you win. I won't live at school. I'll do the long commute. I give up" and I walked away. I wish it wasn't so expensive, my job now doesn't pay enough for me to live on my own. I'm a full time student. When I'm not at school, I'm at work. There's no way I could pay for this myself unless I live in the slums. What should I do? Yes, they are in charge of paying as I can't afford it, and also they promised me they would, And I've done everything in my power to try to get on-campus housing. I've tried asking my friends who already go there to be roommates, but they are unable to. I just think my parents either don't want to pay for it or like everything else in my life, don't think I can do it, my mom especially. She thinks everyone's a criminal and out to get her.

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1. First of all, you are 21, which makes you an adult, so why are you asking them at all? Are they footing the bill for your housing? If so, then I can understand them wanting to choose. However, most colleges have some sort of dormitory facilities, even for upperclassmen. Have you thoroughly checked out those possibilities? Don't give up. Keep looking and you will find something.