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This concerns my career and personal life. I am tired and confused. Need honest and sensible advice pls.?

I do disaster mgt. including emergency relief, search and rescue etc. Worked during riots, earthquakes, cyclones, flood etc. I luv my work; try to help people in distress. Receiving a smile or a hug from them is the best reward one can get. If and when I do get a chance to revist them, I am received with open arms -much more satisfying than being paid a million dollars. I do however get a good salary. But I'm exposed to dangerous situations - been face to face with death already. I have to be exposed to dangerous situations for prolonged period. This has lately affected my health. I also have a truncated social life; few friends, no girls wanna come close. ! But I luv my work - the challenges, thrills & satisfaction of work well done. This is driving me crazy. Should I change job or prepare myself for the occupational hazard and dedicate my life to work? I'm otherwise a cool guy who can "think" during crisis time. Tell me how can I keep doing my work and have a decent social life?

Public Comments

1. Person like you need not to worry about being unsocial as your work is really devoted to society and people who luv you for it.If you are happy(as it seems from your explanation)why shuld you skip to another field and be unsatisfied for whole life.Secondly,don't worry about girls b'cozz i am sure you will get a girl of your type who shuld be equally passionate toward your work or maybe she has same field also.So,wait up for sometime as god will really reward you for your helping others in their bad times which is above all works.May god give you more courage and a long life.Have a nice time.
2. Thank you for your work, it takes a special person to do the things you do and we need people like you. There are girls out there that would love to meet you I am sure. There are even girls that work like you do although they are more pron to helping in not so dangerous situations. Maybe try volunteering after the emergency to help rebuild things that is where you will meet people more like you. Good luck
3. you do a great service. I know about stress just not quiet on the level you have it. You say you love your job, well dont give up. There will be some one come along. Social life? Well, you just have to make time for that. I do. Seems like I live at my job and visit my family. Hang in there we need people like you.
4. Hi. What ure going through in life it happens to almost all of us at point or another in our lives; so dont panic or get worried unnecessarily. If ure happy with your work in all ways then what remains to be seen is your personal life. We should balance our professional and personal lives so that neither suffers. If u have any liability or obligation assuming that you're single then parents or siblings to look after then you owe to them also. Sometimes we have to change our course of lives for our loved ones. If there is none then u will definitely get someone sooner or later who will accept you with all that you love and enjoy. At the same time, you will have to make changes in your way of living then so that your loved one doesnot suffer in any way. In the meantime, maybe u can take a holiday, relax and chill. Maybe ure working too hard or way too much exposed to life-threatening situations which may have taken a toll on ur system thats y ure having negative thoughts. Dnt let them overrun you, instead take a lead and crush them while u can! All the Best and r'mbr that ure indeed doing a good job helping the distressed and in need!
5. Firstly, thank you for the work you do and for how freely you give of yourself... and since you like hugs so much... ******(hhhhhhhuuuuuuuuugggggg)***** I think that you will be unhappy if you give up this job, it obviously means alot to you and i honestly think that if you leave it, you will be leaving a piece of yourself behind as well! One day, I hope soon, you are going to meet the right lady and she is going to understand you and how much this job means to you! But it may be taking a while because it is going to be some kind of specail lady for her to understand that at anytime she could loose you! But when you find her, it would have been worth the wait! God see's you and your work, your loyalty and your passion, and I dont think that someone with all these qualities was ment to be alone!
6. YOu need a change of scene. Of course without having a stable head on your shoulders you cannot handle such jobs. BUt every body needs a break. So go for a long vacation, recuperate and then think about what you want to do with life
7. Don't worry. You are doing a great job. This is the need of the hour. Go ahead with your work. God is there to favour you.He has given an opportunity to you to help others in distress and you are doing it with involvement. So don't think of changing your job. Good fortune is ahead.
8. hey man you are doing a great job and do it as your work is your god.don't ever think to leave it.as its now become your good friend who don't want anybody idea to change.I wish you may live a very happy life and appreciate for your work too.
9. hai chamkdar,cool men did not knew that ur doing social activites happy to know and proud of u.i request dont change ur life stay dedicated,even i have same problems no girlfriend,but still kicking and doing well i am attached to one center of humanist movement and its not cool for anybody around me.but iam happy and still doing well.would u like to become my friend i will introduce u to my center friends we can together start some new project and have a good time.and if every thing goes fine we can expand our project we can do a lot of things in life men,dont let ur self down.the world need people like u.ok so stay happy and keep moving ahead.i do understand the importance of friends in life but we can find new friends and also expand our group.we should not let such things come in the way of ur work,keep it up.
10. From all my guy friends, here's something we all want to give you: >>>>HHHHHUUUUUUGGGSS<<<<< And from all my gal friends, here something THEY want to give you too: >>>>HHHHHUUUUUUGGGSS<<<<< You are *THE* man on this forum buddy! Hey listen, this is not the right place on net for it, but someday if you plan to write upon how you grew up to take an assignment that most guys run away from, I'd be the first person to listen your larger-than-life story. You're no less than a soldier--so at times a sacrifice of lower things for a bigger mission isn't avoidable.. but that's what makes us proud of people like you.
11. Hi Pal, you are doing a commendable job and I think you should continue doing the same. To make new friends, I would suggest you to open a workshop to share your ideas on disaster management which can become helpful to more and more people, since this subject is something which is not taught in many colleges. While coaching others I am sure you will find someone who will interest you and vice versa. Give it a try. don't loose heart. For a dynamic person like you, loosing heart is a futile act. Appreciate your dedication on your work front.