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I think I lost my mind. Today I broke all the dishes in the house, due to my spouse (the drunk) I was so pissed, all he does is get up every morning sat at the table and hung is head like a two year old. I feel like checking my self in to a clinic for wife's of drinking spouses, I hate him, he nothing but a stain on the wall to me, If they called and said he was dead I would be happy, I've thought of calling his job for them to know he drinks on his way to work. Help me let go of this and move on, Lost another job due to his mental abuse, 20 dollars an hour down the drain. I feel like I'm drowning help? One reason I lose jobs is because when I work I pay 2000 dollars of bills bi-weekly or they don't get paid so I purish him by quiting Lori you hit the nail on the head, but I can't say those things LOL

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kick him out, get a divorce and move far away. OR call the cops and tip them that he is drinking WHILE driving and let him sit in jail.
Leave him! Go seek help and leave him! Why are you still with him if it's that bad? Stop focusing on him and take your life back.
You need to kick him out of the house. Next time he goes to work, quietly pack all your stuff, and be gone by the time he gets there. Or pack his stuff and change the locks. No point in staying in a relationship with a person who isn't even in a relationship with you, but with a mind-altering substance. Then join Al-Anon. It will help you deal with the issues that come from having lived with an addict.
sounds like you both need to enter consoling to help with your problems and separating would probably be a good idea.
leave him
Lady, find a friend with a real big gun or husband and bounce out. Get a restraining order and get to an abused spouce grp to help you out. If you stay there the verbal will turn to physical abuse.
Your quitting your job really has nothing to do with him. Please don't blame him for that. You dish breaking escapade has nothing to do with him either. Your choices, your consequences.. On the other hand, his drinking should be placed squarely on HIS shoulders and HIS alone. You have the right to confront him about his drinking and kick him out of the home. Are there no relatives of his that could assist you in confronting him about the drinking problem? Whether you do it with his relatives or not, please do something soon. It sounds a though it's long overdue. Do you have children? If not for your sake, please do it for the kids.
You need to leave before he ends up in a grave and you end up in prison. If you want to really get him start calling the law on him when he gets drunk or when he leaves drinking and driving. He'll either stop or he wont be there to bother you and do bail him out let him bail him self out as for quiting your job that was stupied. Nobody is worth punishing your self.
My mom was in a relationship exactly like this for 15 years (not with my father), but she lost a lot before she finally realized he was not worth it. It took having me move out of the house and finally having a knife thrown at her as she was in bed. Thank god, she finally got out or she would probably be dead. She has now met a new man, who is a great guy and she is married and very happy. But, it took her til she was 53 years old to find this happiness. Please don't waste your whole life on this schmuck, there is so much more out there. You deserve much better than a life like this. Good Luck with everything.
Dear Grayeyes. Given your anger and his abuse, it's probably best that you leave. Find a friend or family member who will be willing to take you in and do not leave a forwarding address. Leave a note to your husband and tell him that he has 30 days to get himself straight or you will be gone permanently. Get yourself a job.
If you left, what reason would you have to be angry all the time for? Why leave and be happy by yourself? And Content etc..
Sounds like you may have been in this to long already. Run Girl Don;t Walk AWAY !!!!!!!!! Look in the phone book for AA there is a fellowship for you as well it is called Al Anon for spouses and family such as yourself. ( I know because I am in AA) Believe me these gals and guys will steer you in the right direction and help you help yourself. There is hope as long as there is breath for everybody. You may not be able to help him but you can save yourself from the madness. Run !!!!!!!! I don't know where you live but often times there is a 24 hour hotline. Good Luck you can do this